Thursday, December 31, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
I've spent a lot of time over the last few weeks thinking about what courage means and how to muster it. I've read up a bit on it, and searched for its definition and origin. I've played with the word in my mind and with my voice. I do like the sound of it - it has a rich strong sound that seems to come from the back of the throat and then settle on the tip of the tongue between the teeth.
Quietly saying the word seems to bring me to my centre.
Apparently the word courage has its origins in the Latin word cor which means heart.
Thus it seems that living courageously is all about living - being, listening, choosing, doing, speaking, moving - from the heart.
Our fears exist for the most part in our heads. In situations where there is no 'clear and present danger', our imagined threats are what halt us in our tracks.
Our heads swing from yes to no and back again. Our hearts know the truth.
Our heads toss up the pros and cons. Our hearts know what needs to be done.
Our heads doubt our abilities. Our hearts trust that we have all that we need.
Our heads remind us of our past mistakes. Our hearts forgive. Over and over again.
Our heads can generate endless fears. Our hearts are a source of infinite love.
So living with fear or living with courage boils down to a simple choice between listening to the voices in our heads, or following our hearts.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
“so very sorry”
but how do i grieve for something that was not yet mine?
how do i grieve for something that i never knew?
an unexpected gift
silently hoped for
i took some time to believe it
but i held onto a quiet promise: two blue lines
i tossed around visions of a different future
a future where we would be five
already so blessed
i felt greedy for wanting so much joy
taken in a river of blood
tears wash away my pain
leaving a hole where once there was hope
i am empty
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
It takes courage to say No.
Friday, December 4, 2009
To help spread the word she’s organising a Blogsplash, where blogs will publish the first page of Ruth’s diary simultaneously (and a link to the blog).
She’s aiming to get 1000 blogs involved – if you’d be interested in joining in, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org or find out more information at http://www.fionarobyn.com/thawblogsplash.htm.
I'm really looking forward to being a part of the online release of Thaw! Why don't you join up too?
Monday, November 30, 2009
It is the most basic, perhaps most obvious, and in theory the most simple thing one can do in life...but somehow it takes most of us a good thirty years to figure out Who we Really Are, and then the rest of our lives learning to Accept who we are, Be who we are, and Love who we are. Perhaps really, this is the very reason we are here. Because the flip side is learning to accept Others as they are, Allow them to Be who they Are, and learn to Love them as they are. (Please excuse the random Use of Caps).
We are all unique. No two people are the same. No two lives are identical and we all look at life from a slightly different perspective. It takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself, to disagree with the masses, to voice your opinion, to choose your own path, and to live a life that you know is right for you. But there is nothing more soul destroying than doing the opposite - waiting in the wings, going with the flow (which feels more like swimming against the tide when it's not what you believe in), keeping quiet, following the crowd simply to feel accepted, looking for approval in all the wrong places, living behind a mask.
Where and how on earth do we start to live an authentic life?
I think being Yourself is mostly about doing what you Love. Most of us have a pretty good idea of what we really love doing, what makes our hearts sings, what makes time stand still, what brings us the most joy, what excites and inspires us. As Joseph Campbell so famously advised ''Follow your bliss".
But in order to live in the world, and be a part of society, build relationships and friendships, raise a family, earn a living, pay the bills, inevitably there are times when we are going to have to do things which we don't love so much, or don't particularly feel like doing at any given moment. So then it becomes a choice between saying No, or doing what you don't necessarily love doing, but doing it With Love. Not FOR Love, but WITH Love. Because the moment we start doing things For Love, For Approval, For Acceptance, we reinforce the belief that we are not lovable simply as we are, regardless of what we do, say, or think.
So I challenge you from today, to:
Dedicate a good portion of each day to doing Something which you Love, simply because it brings you Joy. If your life is overflowing with commmitments, sit down and prioritise your time so that you dedicate at least 30 minutes a day to yourself. Perhaps the only way you can find an extra 30 minutes is by setting your alarm half an hour earlier (believe me the energy you generate from doing what you love will more than make up for half an hour less sleep). Do whatever it takes to find ways to make time for your passions. Get rid of the unnecessary, time consuming, time wasting tasks that are not feeding your soul.
And then, for the rest of your day, do what you Have to do With Love, knowing that what you are doing fulfils a purpose that makes the life you are living more comfortable and meaningful - whether it is by earning money, building relationships, cleaning your home or preparing food for your family. Eventually you'll find that you start Loving What you Do, simply because you're doing it from your heart.
Thursday, November 26, 2009
by inchesYou want it here and now, a remedy for everything
gone wrong. A magic wand, perhaps, alighted
on your shoulders. An angel whispering
sweet nothings while you sleep so you wake benighted
with certainty that you are whole once again. You realize
your patience is diminishing, and yet what's required is the reverse.
This will not be some biblical miracle before your eyes,
a transformation of movie star proportions. No, healing is a slow nurse,
pausing bedside with drips of water, a hot cloth, a murmur of a touch.
By inches, a change sneaks into you, even if it doesn't look like much.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
What an inspiring woman!
Monday, November 23, 2009
Monday, October 12, 2009
One of the tools is the Personal Commandments which prompts you to list the most important principles that you want to guide your actions and thoughts - values that you know to be true for your own personal fulfillment.
I spent quite a while pondering this list, it changed a few times (it was hard to keep the list to 10 - it would probably be absolutely fine to list more, but the aim is to be concise). I'll probably keep refining my list, as I learn more about myself and what makes me happiest but for now it reads as follows:
1. Be 100% Kathleen. Do what you love.
2. Be here now. With all 5 senses.
3. Listen to your body. Trust what it says.
4. Eat consciously. Savour every mouthful.
5. Speak your truth.
6. When in doubt or despair, go for a walk.
7. Be the friend you'd like to have.
8. Live in harmony with the seasons.
9. Know that you already have everything you need.
10. Love Glenn, as he is.
If I wake up every morning and consider these 10 things, I can be sure that my days will be happier and my life will be more meaningful. I can honestly say that just taking the time to make this list has made me feel more at peace with who I am - it's really worth taking the time to make your list!
In future posts, I'll expand on what each one of these items means to me and why it is so important to my day to day joy. In the meantime, I encourage you to list your own Personal Commandments and start living each day according to them.with thanks to lucky fish images for the beautiful photograph!
Monday, September 21, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Thursday, August 20, 2009
I chose haiku because I was drawn to the security of the framework it provides while allowing one to explore how much can be said in a few simple syllables. I was surprised at what came up! I wrote about spring because we're reaching the end of a long (but thankfully reasonably mild) winter here in New Zealand and spring is starting to show signs of returning. Of all the seasons, Spring seems to hold the most possibility and promise. After a winter of restful hibernation, spring is a time of new beginnings, good intentions, light and growth.
The photograph was taken on a walk around our local neighbourhood. There are already many trees covered in beautiful spring blossoms but this one caught my eye. Covered in tight buds, its branches reach towards the sunshine as it filters through the wintery cloud. I can't wait to go back in a few weeks and see it in full bloom.
Thanks to Joanna for inspiring me to explore new possibilities and for giving me the courage to share my writing!
Monday, June 29, 2009
So for over a week I wrote nothing.
Hip Hip Hooray!
Monday, June 15, 2009
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy;
Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console;
To be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive,
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Monday, June 1, 2009
An angel will always appear when we cry for help.
All we have to do is Ask,
and give Thanks.
Friday, April 17, 2009
And since then, I've been trying to get the next issue of my yoga newsletter finished which I finally did yesterday afternoon - thanks to the fact that the girls were happily entertained playing with the kids from next door. Apart from the occasional demand for snacks I was able to park behind the computer and get it done!
Monday, April 6, 2009
And usually as soon as one thing gets done, another two are added. At the end of the day whatever's left undone on the list gets moved to tomorrow's list and so the days roll into weeks and months and all I seem to have to show for all this doing is an ever increasing pile of ironing and a few more (thankfully sparse) grey hairs.
But if life is made up of all this activity, a lot of which provides very little tangible evidence of all the effort involved, what makes it all worthwhile? How can I bring some meaning to my doing? If we're called Human Beings why do we spend some much time trying to be Human Doings?
So I decided this morning that along with my daily To Do list I needed to create a To Be List - something that would define who I am, something that would set the stage for my 'doing', something that would provide a little bit of meaning to my living.
So I wrote my To Be List - I listed all the qualities I value, all the characteristics I admire in others, all the ways of being that inspire me, and all the traits that I hope people might admire in me. I realised that these were all the things I hoped to be when I finally got to the bottom of my To Do list..all the things I'd become when I finally had a little bit of time...
But the amazing thing that happened when I made my To Be list was that I realised that these were not chores but choices. And I could choose them today, right now, in the midst of my everyday living.
My To Be List brought a new dimension to my To Do List.
So now I can Be Happy while I do the grocery shopping.
I can Be Grateful when I pay the phone bill.
I can Be Creative as I cook the dinner.
I can Be Calm while I get the kids ready for school.
And I can Be Conscious on my early morning run.
I don't have to wait to be all these things.
I can choose to be that person.
It really is that simple.
So what are you going to be today?
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I give you this morning.
Please take away my despair of yesterday.
Help me to forgive the things that caused me pain and would keep me bound.
Help me to begin again.
Please bless my path and illumine my mind.
I surrender to You the day ahead.
Please bless every person and situation I will encounter.
Make me who You would have me be, That I might do as You would have me do.
Please enter my heart and remove all anger, fear and pain.
Renew my soul and free my spirit.
Thank you, God, for this day.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Welcome to my Soul Sisters blog!
I am excited about this new way of communicating and sharing thoughts about Life and Love. Of course sitting down together over a cup of coffee would be far preferable but we can pretend and remember and imagine. Besides, we know we are connected in so many ways beyond the physical realm!
My intention for this blog is that it will be a source of inspiration, guidance, support, unconditional love, friendship, creativity and fun. Because that's why sisters were made!
"Help one another, is part of the religion of sisterhood"
Louisa May Alcott